5 simple steps to healthy family ministry

March 12, 2019

I once met with a struggling pastor who, for years, had been trying to encourage parents in his church to be more intentional with disciple-making in their homes.

He had modeled disciple-making in his own home, preached on discipleship in the home and made various resources available to parents. Instead of seeing families become intentional with discipling their kids, parents seemed to rely more on church programs and paid staff to disciple their children.

Out of frustration, he contacted me to see what was missing. I affirmed his efforts but challenged him to examine the overall disciple-making culture in his church. This led to the realization that there was no intentional focus on family ministry.

Does this describe your congregation? Perhaps you too are frustrated and need to look more closely at the disciple-making culture of your church. Following is a summary of “5 Steps to a Healthy Family Ministry in Your Church” by author and ministry consultant Ron Hunter of D6 Family Ministries. Hunter says:

  1. Stop denying the problem.
    Most experts will agree that step one of the process is to admit you are facing a potential crisis if something does not change.
  2. Find an objective way to assess your church.
    Every church is responsible for helping their congregants become more like Christ in their daily life. Hunter says we need to assess, “How well are the families of your church doing this when they are not at church?” There are numerous free survey tools to use to determine the answer to this question. Here’s a survey we offer through the N.C. Baptist Faith at Home ministry.
  3. Create a plan that increases health.
    According to Hunter, “As the ministry leader, if you are the only one recognizing the challenge, the only one doing the assessment, the only one drawing up the strategy for correcting the course – don’t expect others to buy in. Slow down the process and walk your key influencers through the process together. When the group buys in or becomes invested, you will have created a passionate pursuit of health, and, in the long run, your job just got a lot easier.”
  4. Give parents easy wins.
    To help parents disciple their families throughout their day-to-day lives, give them simple handouts, apps or texts that serve as conversation starters for home, in the car or at dinner. A number of resources to assist in these efforts are available through the N.C. Baptist Faith at Home resources.
  5. Recognize that family ministry cannot occur in isolation.
    Remember, Hunter says, to be persistent because when two or three parents figure it out, they will become your best champions.

EDITOR’S NOTE: This article was adapted from “5 Steps to a Healthy Family Ministry in Your Church” by D6 Family Ministries.


by Mark Smith  /  
Family Evangelism and Discipleship  /  Baptist State Convention of North Carolina

‘Strengthen the Church’ Q&A: Walter Strickland

Walter Strickland serves as Assistant Professor of Systematic and Contextual Theology and Associate Vice President for Diversity at Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary. Along with itinerant preaching and speaking engagements, Walter contributes to Canon & Culture as an...

Urgent church: Nine changes we must make or die

It broke my heart. Another church closed. This church had unbelievable potential. Indeed, it had its own “glory days,” but only for a season. But, 10 years ago, few would have predicted this church’s closure. Today, it is but another statistic in the ecclesiastical graveyard. I...

Sunday School and Small Group training for busy lives

Do you ever say, “I would really like to attend that training but my life is busy? I just can’t find the time!” Good news! The Sunday School and Small Groups team has designed a convenient, self-guided learning platform to assist leaders not only to be trained but also to train...

Embracing the silos

A silo is a structure for storing bulk materials. Oftentimes they’re used in agriculture to store grain, but they can also be used for storage of coal, cement, carbon black, wood chips and sawdust. Silos are separated. They protect their holdings from outside weather and...

‘Strengthen the Church’ Q&A: Mark Hearn

Mark Hearn serves as senior pastor of First Baptist Church of Duluth, Ga., a suburb of Atlanta that is one of the most diverse communities in the United States. During his tenure as pastor, Hearn has led FBC Duluth to embrace multicultural ministry, a story that has been...

25 suggestions for your summer reading list

What would summer be without a stack of good books? We polled some of the most avid readers from the staff of the Baptist State Convention of North Carolina and compiled a list of their picks. With page-turning thrillers, biographies, in-depth theological works and more, there’s...

Lessons learned from an ineffective pastor

Before I came to work at the Baptist State Convention of North Carolina, I pastored for 25 years. I learned a lot about who I was as a pastor and about my ineffectiveness. Many times, I worked 60 hours a week, going in different directions, spinning my wheels, and I felt like the...

What’s the link between worship and discipleship?

Mike Harland has served as the director of worship at LifeWay Christian Resources since 2005. He is a Dove Award winning songwriter, a published author, and a worship leader who sings and speaks nationally and internationally. Harland will provide equipping and encouragement for...

]

0 Comments

Submit a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Select Language ^

Share This

Share this with your friends!