5 simple steps to healthy family ministry

March 12, 2019

I once met with a struggling pastor who, for years, had been trying to encourage parents in his church to be more intentional with disciple-making in their homes.

He had modeled disciple-making in his own home, preached on discipleship in the home and made various resources available to parents. Instead of seeing families become intentional with discipling their kids, parents seemed to rely more on church programs and paid staff to disciple their children.

Out of frustration, he contacted me to see what was missing. I affirmed his efforts but challenged him to examine the overall disciple-making culture in his church. This led to the realization that there was no intentional focus on family ministry.

Does this describe your congregation? Perhaps you too are frustrated and need to look more closely at the disciple-making culture of your church. Following is a summary of “5 Steps to a Healthy Family Ministry in Your Church” by author and ministry consultant Ron Hunter of D6 Family Ministries. Hunter says:

  1. Stop denying the problem.
    Most experts will agree that step one of the process is to admit you are facing a potential crisis if something does not change.
  2. Find an objective way to assess your church.
    Every church is responsible for helping their congregants become more like Christ in their daily life. Hunter says we need to assess, “How well are the families of your church doing this when they are not at church?” There are numerous free survey tools to use to determine the answer to this question. Here’s a survey we offer through the N.C. Baptist Faith at Home ministry.
  3. Create a plan that increases health.
    According to Hunter, “As the ministry leader, if you are the only one recognizing the challenge, the only one doing the assessment, the only one drawing up the strategy for correcting the course – don’t expect others to buy in. Slow down the process and walk your key influencers through the process together. When the group buys in or becomes invested, you will have created a passionate pursuit of health, and, in the long run, your job just got a lot easier.”
  4. Give parents easy wins.
    To help parents disciple their families throughout their day-to-day lives, give them simple handouts, apps or texts that serve as conversation starters for home, in the car or at dinner. A number of resources to assist in these efforts are available through the N.C. Baptist Faith at Home resources.
  5. Recognize that family ministry cannot occur in isolation.
    Remember, Hunter says, to be persistent because when two or three parents figure it out, they will become your best champions.

EDITOR’S NOTE: This article was adapted from “5 Steps to a Healthy Family Ministry in Your Church” by D6 Family Ministries.


by Mark Smith  /  
Family Evangelism and Discipleship  /  Baptist State Convention of North Carolina

Considering a strategic vision for digital engagement

There is a difference between using something and leveraging something. You can use money to buy things you may or may not need. But that does not equate to leveraging it. Leveraging money as an investment could double or triple the initial investment. Using takes something at...

The beauty of adoption

Mom and dad never called me their adopted son. I was just their son. I was born into an unfortunate situation, but I was adopted into a blessed family. In 1966, adoption was not as highlighted in the American church as it is today. In the spring of 1998, I was a seminary student...

5 areas where pastors can grow in the new year

In the optometry profession, 20/20 means clarity or sharpness of vision.    For most people, the year 2020 was anything but clear. In fact, 2020 was as unclear as a year could be because of the repercussions of COVID-19, especially if you are leading in ministry as a pastor.   ...

NC mountain man returns home to plant new church

People say if you live in the North Carolina mountains, they’ll always call you back.   For Michael Childers, that’s pretty much what happened. Except it was God who called him back, not the hills, he says.   Drive to Brevard over in western North Carolina, and then head out of...

Resolve to pray for and encourage your pastor in the new year

Resolve to pray for and encourage your pastor in the new year Happy New Year! I know that those are welcome words for many of us, myself included. Given the events of the past year, we are all ready to return to some semblance of normal, although normal will undoubtedly look...

Speaker added, registration open for 2021 Disciple-making Conference

Church leadership coach, and author Will Mancini has been added to the lineup of speakers for the 2021 N.C. Baptist Disciple-making Conference, which is scheduled for Tuesday and Wednesday, Feb. 23-24, in a hybrid format. Registration for the conference is now open.   Mancini,...

20 ways to prevent and resolve conflict in the church

The COVID crisis, combined with heightened racial and political tension, has triggered unprecedented conflict throughout our nation, as well as in the local church.   Churches are literally dividing over masks, racial policies and political positions. As a result, pastors are...

How you can be an advocate for life

Throughout Scripture, God demonstrates that He has a particular love for orphans. Psalm 68:5 tells us, “A father of the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in His holy habitation.” The brother of Jesus Christ, James, informs his readers in his epistle that orphan care is a...

]

0 Comments

Submit a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Stay connected by signing up for the N.C. Baptist monthly newsletter.

Select Language ^

Share This

Share this with your friends!