Encouragement for blended families

August 16, 2018

Goodbye summer, and hello fall!

For many families, summers are busy and always seem to put a kink into our normal routines. You can pretty much throw routines out the door during the summer.  Can I get a witness?

School is out. Grocery bills go up. “Daddy, I am bored.” And the list goes on.

We must be aware that busyness is Satan’s most strategic and subtle way to destroy and divide our families. 

For a traditional family, making plans and navigating through the busyness of life is a real struggle. But that stress and complexity is amplified to a much higher level when you look at the dynamic of a blended family. 

When you factor in planning around vacations, works schedules, summer sports workouts, and camps for two sets of parents and four sets of grandparents, tensions can rise.

The key to overcome the “rat race” of life is to continually seek the presence of God, date your spouse and be present when you are with your family. If you don’t make time for God, your spouse and your family, don’t be surprised when you find yourself in a mess. 

If you are like me, you look back and wonder where time has gone and see all of the ways you have failed as a parent.  I see so many missed opportunities for gospel conversations with my family that I will never get back. But, there is good news. 

The good news is this. We have an Advocate, a Shepherd and a Helper to help us overcome our past hurts and failures.  As we transition from summer to fall, take the opportunity to refocus, refuel and refresh your family so that you can finish 2018 strong and with a determined purpose. 

Why have a determined purpose? 

First Peter 5:8 warns us to “Be of sober spirit, be on the alert. Your adversary, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour” (NASB).

The family has always been the prime target for Satan and his demons. The enemy has attacked our families, and he wants to tear apart and destroy them. Busyness and hectic schedules are major things that Satan uses to distract us and lull us into a sleepy spiritual state without us even knowing it. 

During Jesus’ earthly ministry, He escaped the busyness of the crowds occasionally to rest and renew His strength. It’s difficult, if not impossible, for us to hear God’s still, quiet voice over the roar of the busyness. So, like Jesus, we must make time to rest and hear from our Lord.

Take this time right now to get before the face of God and cry out to Him to refresh, restore and revive your heart and life. Ask God to help you prioritize your family and to intentionally engage your family with gospel conversations. Ask God to help you to remain steadfast and alert to the schemes of the enemy. Ask God to help you live out the love of Jesus in front of your family. 


by Steve Ashley  
/  Pastor  /  Appalachian Church

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