5 conversation starters for summer

June 11, 2018

Now that summer is officially here, many of us are looking forward to firing up the grill, taking in the long days, and enjoying a little rest and relaxation. Summer also provides some great opportunities to build relationships with your friends and neighbors who may not know Christ.

During the People Groups Discovery and Engagement workshop held at the Baptist State Convention of North Carolina offices, Bryan Galloway and Terry Sharp with the International Mission Board shared some conversation starters that you can use to get to know others. Plus, these all start with the letter F, so they’ll be easy to remember.

So as you’re planning your next backyard barbeque, trip to the park or baseball outing, invite some friends and neighbors to come along. Use the following topics as a guide to engage them in conversation and get to know them better as you lay the groundwork to engage them in gospel conversations.

Family
Asking about family lets them know you are interested in their life. It also shows that you share common ground in that family is an important aspect of both your lives. When talking with individuals from different cultural or ethnic backgrounds, you can also learn about certain family customs, structures or dynamics unique to their environment.

Friends
Asking about friends lets you know how a person likes to spend their time and who they like to spend it with. It might also reveal some of their hobbies and interests. You might just find that you share more in common with that person than you think.

Food
Who doesn’t like to talk about food? Asking about food can help you learn about social customs or places your friends and neighbors like to gather. Such a conversation could open up more opportunities to converse and continue building a relationship. After all, there are 21 meal times in a week. Why not use some of them for making disciples?

Faith or festivals
Many of us have been taught that it’s best not to talk about religion or politics. Yet many people from other parts of the world living here in the United States can be very open about discussing their religious beliefs. Take time to really learn about what they believe and why they believe what they do. Additionally, many cultures have various festivals that they regularly engage in. Many communities also hold various international festivals throughout the year. See if there’s a cultural festival coming up in your community and make plans to attend.

Future
Ask those you are building a relationship with about their future goals and plans. Doing so will show you care about them as an individual. Plus, you may discover that you have a shared interest that could help your relationship to grow deeper.

Asking open-ended questions on topics such as these will go a long way toward helping you really get to know another person. Remember that showing genuine interest in them and their lives will go a long way toward earning the right to be heard when the time is right to share God’s truth.

So enjoy your summer to the glory of God!

EDITOR’S NOTE: This article originally ran on June 25, 2015 after the People Groups Discovery and Engagement workshop held in the spring of 2015.


by Chad Austin  
/  Communications Team  /  Baptist State Convention of North Carolina

‘Strengthen the Church’ Q&A: Mark Hearn

Mark Hearn serves as senior pastor of First Baptist Church of Duluth, Ga., a suburb of Atlanta that is one of the most diverse communities in the United States. During his tenure as pastor, Hearn has led FBC Duluth to embrace multicultural ministry, a story that has been...

25 suggestions for your summer reading list

What would summer be without a stack of good books? We polled some of the most avid readers from the staff of the Baptist State Convention of North Carolina and compiled a list of their picks. With page-turning thrillers, biographies, in-depth theological works and more, there’s...

Lessons learned from an ineffective pastor

Before I came to work at the Baptist State Convention of North Carolina, I pastored for 25 years. I learned a lot about who I was as a pastor and about my ineffectiveness. Many times, I worked 60 hours a week, going in different directions, spinning my wheels, and I felt like the...

What’s the link between worship and discipleship?

Mike Harland has served as the director of worship at LifeWay Christian Resources since 2005. He is a Dove Award winning songwriter, a published author, and a worship leader who sings and speaks nationally and internationally. Harland will provide equipping and encouragement for...

12 signs your church may be inwardly focused

Most churches have more of an inward focus than an outward one. That’s one reason Thom Rainer and I many years ago wrote the book, Eating the Elephant – to help established churches turn outwardly. Here are some signs that your church might be inwardly focused: Your church doesn’t...

0 Comments

Submit a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Get the latest news and event information by signing up for the N.C. Baptist newsletter.

Select Language ^

Share This

Share this with your friends!