Why you should encourage families to parent based on strengths

July 12, 2021

Many parents struggle with keeping the lines of communication open with their teens. Conversations can become less frequent and less meaningful as children get older.

One parent said, “As my son got older we spent less time together. Our conversations were shallow and we just drifted apart.” Are you hearing parents in your church ask, “How am I going to survive the teenage years?”

When the lines of communication are in disrepair, do not lose hope. Instead, encourage families to parent based on strengths.

The Lord wants parents to connect to their teen’s heart in a deeper, long-lasting way.

What does it mean to parent based on strengths? A strength is something you are good at, you feel good doing and you choose to do often. Some benefits to parenting based on strengths include:

  • Understanding better how the Lord has uniquely designed and gifted them as a follower of Christ.
  • Seeing more clearly how the Lord has uniquely designed and gifted their teenager.
  • Having new conversations about how the Lord could use the strengths of their teenagers in their day-to-day lives. (Read more about cultivating meaningful conversations with your kids).
  • Exploring the many ways their teen can use their God-given strengths in the future.

The Bible tells us that every human being is made in the image of God. He has entrusted all His image-bearers with a variety of strengths that we have the privilege of discovering, developing and using in every aspect of our lives — especially in our homes.

Parenting based on strengths can help parents avoid unwanted frustrations by providing new opportunities, new perspectives, new purposes and a new fascination for disciple-making in their homes.

The Lord wants parents to connect to their teen’s heart in a deeper, long-lasting way. Parenting based on strengths can help accomplish these goals.

EDITOR’S NOTE: The N.C. Baptist Faith at Home ministry is hosting a free “Parenting Based on Strengths” event for ministry leaders on Monday, Aug. 31. To learn more and to register, click here.

by Mark Smith  /  
Family Evangelism and Discipleship  /  Baptist State Convention of North Carolina

What the Bible says about a pastor’s authority

I’ve heard it said, “The pastor’s job is to preach, marry and bury. Running the church is up to others.” Make no mistake — the primary task of a shepherd is to feed the flock. Paul commanded young Timothy to preach the Word. Preaching sermons on the Lord’s Day and officiating...

15 vital things you can give your pastor

October is pastor appreciation month. As a pastor for 25 years, here are some ideas for things your church can give your pastor:Give him a place.Give him a place where he is free to preach the gospel.Give him a place where he is accepted for who he is, not compared to who he...

Why I’m excited about this year’s Pastors’ Conference

The past year has been difficult. The world we live in today looks quite different than it did just 18 months ago. Many things we were accustomed to doing have either disappeared, been restricted, or have changed, for better or worse. One of the biggest changes was the separation...

The local school: A great place for church ministry

For the most part I really enjoyed school. However, there were some aspects of the time that I enjoyed more than others. I enjoyed the learning, the socialization, and of course, the sports. I found most of the assignments manageable with the exception of writing papers. Sitting...

Ready or not, here they come! Evaluating your church with fresh eyes

Is your church ready for guests who may visit your church after first watching online? Are you ready for members who may return after an extended COVID-19 break? What steps can you take to make a great first impression and reintegrate those who want to reengage with your...

Why personal evangelism is a key ingredient for turnaround churches

Many pastors and churches today are struggling. Pastors are discouraged, and some are leaving the ministry altogether. It’s been estimated that more than 80% of churches are plateaued or declining. Yet, some churches are seeing a turnaround. A fresh wind is blowing. These churches...

Looking forward to being on mission together

In late August, a series of organizational changes were unanimously approved by our state convention’s executive committee aimed at advancing all of us forward as a movement of churches on mission together. We’ve been working toward implementing these changes, and I hope that our...

Fostering and adoption: Why forever matters

“Which one is my mommy now?” I never imagined a child asking someone to point out who their mother was. However, the little blonde-haired girl named Ally, who I was holding that day, had already lived with three different families in the span of 15 months since she and her sister...

Join us Aug. 31 to learn how to help families discover parenting based on strengths.

Email [email protected] or call (800) 395-5102, ext. 5646


Submit a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Stay connected by signing up for the N.C. Baptist monthly newsletter.

Select Language ^

Share This

Share this with your friends!